COULD A CONVERSATION CHANGE YOUR LIFE?

Because I believe that everyone, despite personal circumstances or life challenges have a unique set of gifts and capabilities that are there waiting to be harnessed. Sometimes the challenges of life get in the way of fully realizing our gifts and talents.

And if you are a human being living on planet earth we are all blessed with challenges and obstacles no matter how successful and accomplished we are.

I have spent the last 15+ years developing innovative ways to grow and help others. I'm passionate about living with great purpose and I'm insatiably focused on helping others do the same. There's nothing more liberating and inspiring than seeing my clients come alive by the discovery of a way how.

Trauma and negative change creates circumstances in life you don’t choose. Healing is about embracing real change you do choose.

I can help you to work less, stress less, BE and DO more with YOUR life...

What I have noticed about human behavior:

Most people are spending their time and energies in the wrong place

People tend to not focus their time, energy, business, and interpersonal relationships effectively because of learned habits and behaviors that have proven to serve or greatest good.

Theses habits are hard to break not because people don't want to or don't have the ability to. It is because our brain is wired to follow habits and patterns of behavior even if the behaviors prove to be detrimental to our relationships, finances, career, and health.

Most people create their own strategies based what they observe from others (parents, co-workers, etc) and do not see the "forest from the trees" when learning more effective ways of managing stress, work pressures and relationships.

Who wants to just 'get by'? 

We all have a need to make a difference for ourselves, our families and our communities, yet the ability to do this doesn't find itself anywhere near 'getting by'. At some stage we all ask ourselves - what difference do I make to my world? Am I heard by those around me?

Philosophers and psychologists have studied mindset for centuries, but the past decade has seen a real interest in the ability to change your mind at will.

So whether you are here to figure out the best way to get through a difficult season in your life, create more focus, unlock the grip of self sabotage, begin to thrive after a major life trauma, or navigate the corporate ladder, or live out your purpose, you're in the right place.

Your Advocate, Cheerleader, and Coach,

Sam Led

The Proper Definition of a 'Coach'

Professional Coaching is a partnership between a qualified coach and an individual or team that supports the achievement of extraordinary results, based on goals

set by the individual or team. Through the process of coaching individuals focus on the skills and actions needed to successfully produce their personally relevant results.

The individual or team chooses the focus of conversation, while the coach listens and contributes observations and questions as well as concepts and principles which can assist in generating possibilities and identifying actions. Through the coaching process the clarity that is needed to support the most effective actions is achieved. Coaching accelerates the individual's or team’s progress by providing greater focus and awareness of possibilities leading to more effective choices. Coaching concentrates on where individuals are now and what they are willing to do to get where they want to be in the future.

What are the Benefits of Coaching?

Individuals who engage in a coaching relationship can expect to experience fresh perspectives on personal challenges and opportunities, enhanced thinking and decision making skills, enhanced interpersonal effectiveness, and increased confidence in carrying out their chosen work and life roles. Consistent with a commitment to enhancing their personal effectiveness, they can also expect to see appreciable results in the areas of productivity, personal satisfaction with life and work, and the achievement of personally relevant goals.

What is an Intuitive Mindset Coach?

While working with an intuitive coach you can expect to confront issues that have been holding you back. As uncomfortable confrontation can be it’s often necessary for healing.

Recognizing your issues, strengths, and weaknesses is a first step to provide invaluable guidance.

Intuitive coaches typically work with energy the client projects to help facilitate cathartic resolution of blockage present. An intuitive coach senses the blockages to help root out the source of your pain. They can then assist you by guiding you through the process of introducing new habits, thoughts, and beliefs that support the life you want to live.

This work supports clients to bring thoughts, words and actions into alignment with personal truths, values and character.

The human brain (through evolution) is programmed to focus on fear, failure, and it is not your fault

During the first eighteen years of our lives, if we grew up in fairly average, reasonable, positive homes, we were told "No," or what we could not do, more than 148,000 times. If you were somewhat more fortunate, you may have been told "No" only 100,000 times, or 50,000 times. However many, it was considerably more negative programming than any of us needs.

Meanwhile, during the same eighteen year time period, how often do you suppose you were told what you can do or what you can accomplish in life? A few thousand times? A few hundred times? Whatever the number, for most of us the "yes's" we received simply didn't balance out the "no's."

The occasional words of "belief" were unfortunately just that — occasional — and they were far outweighed by our daily doses of "cannots."

Through scientific discovery we have proved the relationship between our own "mental programming" and the matter of whether we will succeed or fail in any endeavor we undertake in life. Think for a moment of some of the things you would like to accomplish, or achieve in your life. Earn more income, have a better family life, improve your skills...

Whatever means you choose to make the change, unless you first begin to change your old "programming," the years of conditioning that keeps you doing it the old way, the likely outcome is that what you want to accomplish will not work, or will not last."

The Process:

• I explore through conversation, questions and experiential processes to discover those sought after A-HA moments that begin to reshape your reality.
•  All of us have a history - a detailed past that for some is very troubling and even horrific. Others have coasted along through life without much of a problem or too many eventful situations. Either way, we have learned how to do what we are doing (consciously or otherwise) and you may have just now decided that you aren't happy or that you are not where you want to be in life and maybe you even have something specific that you want to change or do differently.

My approach:

•  What fears are holding you back, how do you self-sabotage?
• One of the things that people really appreciate about working with me is that I don't  need to hear about the context of what you are going through.
•  I don't need all the details of your story in order to be effective. It can be very comforting for a perspective client to know that it is not necessary to dig up all of the past in order to move forward today.

I pay attention to the structure of the 'issues'. I pay attention to the HOW that supports the pattern of behavior or thinking in order for it to remain. When we discover the unconscious or subconscious (however you think about it) programs and patterns that are in play, we can then insert options and other possibilities which impact your results. And when we make shifts in the structure of the problem, you don't have to consciously "remember to be different" - you simply operate from a new pattern - a new way of being that supports how you want to live your life.

We notice our limitations and the walls we hit in both personal and professional aspects of our lives. Here are just a couple that I notice on a daily basis.

In your personal life do you find you are:

• Concerned about what other people think or say about you?
• Putting yourself second, third or more commonly, LAST?
• Unhappy with your physical health and yet not doing anything about it?
• Judgemental towards others and their choices?
• Stuck in an unpleasant mood or emotion such as shame, guilt, grief, jealousy, hurt, or loneliness?
• Uncomfortable talking to new people or asking for help?
• Often blaming the situation, other people or your 'bad luck' for what goes wrong?
• Wishing and hoping for things to be different?
• Nervous when asked to speak to a group?
• Procrastinate and put off tasks?
• Second guess or doubt your decisions and abilities?
• Hesitate or not ask for assistance because it might not "look good"?
• Get frustrated and feel dumped on?
• Feel upset when someone else seems to be on a power trip?
• Wish you had more confidence and self esteem?
• Look down on other people and compare yourself?
• My philosophy is that as humans, it is our responsibility to seek the help we need when you need it. Fundamentally, life is meant to be peaceful, enjoyable, rewarding, fun, connected and fulfilling among many other wonderful things.

What are typically some reasons someone might work with a coach:

• There is something at stake (a challenge, stretch, goal or opportunity), and it is urgent, compelling or exciting or all of the above
• There is a gap in knowledge, skills, confidence, or resources
• A big stretch is being asked or required, and it is time sensitive
• There is a need for a course correction in work or life due to a setback
• An individual has a style of relating that is ineffective or is not supporting the achievement of one’s personally relevant goals
• There is a lack of clarity, and there are choices to be made
• The individual is extremely successful, and success has started to become problematic
• Work and life are out of balance, and this is creating unwanted consequences
• One has not identified his or her core strengths and how best to leverage them
• The individual desires work and life to be simpler, less complicated
• There is a need and a desire to better organized and more self-managing

How is Coaching Delivered?

The Coaching Process — Coaching typically begins with a personal interview (either face-to-face or by teleconference call) to assess the individual’s current opportunities and challenges, define the scope of the relationship, identify priorities for action, and establish specific desired outcomes. Subsequent coaching sessions may be conducted in person or over the telephone, with each session lasting a previously established length of time. Between scheduled coaching sessions, the individual may be asked to complete specific actions that support the achievement of one’s personally prioritized goals. The coach may provide additional resources in the form of relevant articles, checklists, assessments, or models, to support the individual’s thinking and actions. The duration of the coaching relationship varies depending on the individual’s personal needs and preferences.

Assessments — A variety of assessments are available to support the coaching process, depending upon the needs and circumstances of the individual. Assessments provide objective information which can enhance the individual’s self-awareness as well as awareness of others and their circumstances, provide a benchmark for creating coaching goals and actionable strategies, and offer a method for evaluating progress.

Concepts, models and principles — A variety of concepts, models and principles drawn from the behavioral sciences, management literature, spiritual traditions and/or the arts and humanities, may be incorporated into the coaching conversation in order to increase the individual’s self-awareness and awareness of others, foster shifts in perspective, promote fresh insights, provide new frameworks for looking at opportunities and challenges, and energize and inspire the individual’s forward actions.

Appreciative approach — Coaching incorporates an appreciative approach. The appreciative approach is grounded in what’s right, what’s working, what’s wanted, and what’s needed to get there. Using an appreciative approach, the coach models constructive communication skills and methods the individual or team can utilize to enhance personal communication effectiveness. The appreciative approach incorporates discovery-based inquiry, proactive (as opposed to reactive) ways of managing personal opportunities and challenges, constructive framing of observations and feedback in order to elicit the most positive responses from others, and envisioning success as contrasted with focusing on problems. The appreciative approach is simple to understand and employ, but its effects in harnessing possibility thinking and goal-oriented action can be profound.

Within the partnership what does the coach do? The individual?

The role of the individual or team is to create the coaching agenda based on personally meaningful coaching goals, utilize assessment and observations to enhance self-awareness and awareness of others, envision personal and/or organizational success, assume full responsibility for personal decisions and actions, utilize the coaching process to promote possibility thinking and fresh perspectives, take courageous action in alignment with personal goals and aspirations, engage big picture thinking and problem solving skills, and utilize the tools, concepts, models and principles provided by the coach to engage effective forward actions.